i am no expert in friendster but i do suspect that when someone answers your invite with a "no" or "block user," more likely than not you won't see it again on your waiting confirmation page and worse, you will never be notified of the invitee's answer.  your invite just simply… disappears. 

my theory is it was the wife who rejected my invite.  when you are a couple and you only have one friendster profile between you, chances are it was the wife that created it;  she's the one that holds the password; she updates the page;  she's the one that has the say as to whom to invite as well as who to accept and reject. 

so yes, i point my finger at her.  and i would like to believe that the ex doesn't have any idea about all this, otherwise it means he's in on it and the sting of rejection will hurt twice as much.  because really, he has no reason — no reason whatsoever — to not want to be my friend, 12 years after the fact. 

wasn't he the one who left me hanging with a marriage proposal that he never followed through on? 

he fell in love with me during our college years.  i broke up with him because he was way too serious and i wasn't about ready to give up my dreams of becoming a lawyer.  he continued to follow me around.  all his friends begged me to take him back.  he came here to the US, wrote me long love letters, went back for me and proposed marriage.  which i stupidly said yes to because it was all so romantic, this idea of a boy who was still in love with me despite it all.  and then he left, both of us acting all sad, and i never heard from him again.

i spent precious pesos calling him up telling him it was off — this promise to marry each other — and promptly returned the ring to his grandmother.  i didn't wait for him to explain.  not that he had anything to say by way of explanation.  clearly, he had changed his mind and i just wanted it over and done with, the whole charade.

my ego took a hard beating but my heart was intact. which is why, years later, when i ran into his stepmom and she told me he was now married and had a baby boy, i was only too happy for him.  and which is why, now that we are in the same country,  i wanted him to be my friend on friendster.

too bad,  catching up would have been grand.  we would've have laughed like crazy over that marriage proposal.  and i would have wanted to get to know the wife and kids (i saw two on the headshot).